Interviewee 12 expressed
his opinion regarding the importance of controlling a woman:
Basically...it’s all based on control. Once you--most men, once they
know they can’t control their woman no more, they don’t want it
[sex]. They want it, but they don’t want to face reality that they
have no more control over this woman....It’s all a part of wanting
what you want. When you want it....My point of control, the control
I want, is to be able to call you when I wanna call you, you know
what I’m saying, and have sex.
An informant discussed how he “manipulated” the female victim into
“submission” prior to the sexual offense; thus, he had control at
that instance. Interviewee 10 recollected:
You get in their head and whether they want to or not, you can
manipulate them, convert them into doing something for you....I was
continually messing with her mind....This was part of the whole
process of me manipulating her. You know, getting to see if she
would follow me....It was just a game to get a piece of ass. And to
see if I could break her down, to see if I could get her to say
'fuck you' or if she would actually come follow me. And she did. She
came followin' me. So, I think it was more of a mental submission
than anything.
I wish to provide a final statement by a participant related to
control. It dovetails nicely with the previous remark. Interviewee
16 expressed:
If she gives the indication to the male that she’s very
impressionable by this man, that she can easily change the mind and
the clothes can be compromised, then she relinquishes
…control--especially to an aggressive, someone who wants to have
only sexual contact with that person.