Negative Expectation

Negative Expectation

• Momentum Halted
• Avoiding Undesirable Rejection
• Conclusion

Psychological Context

• Personality
• Intent
• Positive Expectation
• Negative Expectation

Table of Contents

• Home
• Mission Statement
• Recommendations for Date Rape Prevention
• Real Female Scripts
• Recommendations for Prison Rehabilitation Therapy and Educational Programs for Schools
• Research Findings

• Biographical Information About Perpetrators
• Model of Date Rape Factors
• Conclusions   
• References

• Statistical Data
• Trauma
• Women's Centers and National Organizations

  Momentum Halted

• In contrast, other male participants in my doctoral dissertation study described some examples of negative expectation. 

• One date rapist used the metaphors of a train wreck and a game, and also generalized to all men, not just perpetrators, in describing a male’s feelings when he does not achieve his sexual intent or expectation. 

  Interviewee 8 stated:

It’d drive ‘em crazy.  I mean for a while.  I don’t know.  Well, I woulda been mad--I would have been upset, for sure.  I would have been angry because uh, the way I perceive the situation was that she wanted it and she was ready for it and when she said “No” it would just . . . it’d be a train wreck.  And your thoughts, your emotions, your feelings, you know, it’d just throw everything out at once at you.  Because you’re all set up to do this final act....And your emotions and your feelings and your—everything’s runnin’ to go to there.  And when it stops, it’s just like hittin’ a wall.  All your emotions have piled up and you’re like—you’re angry, you’re confused, you’re upset, you’re wantin’ ta hurt somethin’ or, you know, ‘cause…you didn’t get to finish what you was doin’.... ‘Cause uh, you don’t wanna be played with.  Because basically it’s a game, that she’d be all passionate and everything and all of a sudden she’d say “No.”  It’d be a game you know, and…I don’t like to lose.  So if it’s a game, you know, you wanna win.  You can think of it as a dating game....A goal would be:  if you’re goin’ through all these actions, your final goal is to [achieve that] release [i.e., orgasm].  And you don’t wanna end the game until you win.

 

  Avoiding Undesirable Rejection

• Another man in the study discussed how males avoid obtaining an undesirable rejection of their intent and expectation through use of aggressive sexual initiatives that steer clear of requesting sex and/or seeking verbal consent from the female victims. 

     Interviewee 16 remarked:

It’s embarrassing, in some ways, because you’re also at this mood to where everything’s going right in your mind and all of a sudden you bring up something that could potentially make you miss out on a night of pleasure, in that sense.  And it’s just that, that risk I guess.  We don’t wanna take that risk.

 

  Conclusion

It is appropriate to end this psychological context section of this Web site as I began, with the glaring illustration cited above regarding the date rapists’ basic personality limitations, namely, their self-centeredness and avoidance of any sincere attempts toward establishing a meaningful and long-term interpersonal relationship.

 

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